My Unmarried Sister
1. Becky wrote:
How can I make an unmarried (and not happy about my wedding) sister feel involved and have a good time? Is there some kind of tradition or fun way to involve her?
It is very thoughtful of you to think about your sister, and to consider her needs and feelings as a factor in your wedding planning. People may often interpret an emotional family member as being jealous or distracting, when in fact those feelings are often a need to be involved. Your wedding is just one day, while your relationship with your sister is forever . You may want to assess the situation by asking her to take on small duties in the planning process. A day alone with her - going to lunch or a movie - may help you to understand her true feelings and figure out what part she could play in the bigger wedding picture.
Many brides give a sister the role of putting on a bridal shower or planning a pre-wedding night out with close girlfriends and family. It gives them a distraction from the actual wedding day, while keeping them involved in the special event. You may also want to assign your sister a role that capitalizes on one of her strengths. Perhaps a greeter at the wedding, a “personal shopper” for bridesmaids gifts, or assisting you in establishing a color theme for the actual day.
I would suggest creating your own traditions. Weddings rely heavily on traditions already. Create your own with your sister. It may have a huge impact on the relationship down the road.
