Who Gets the Honors?
Kira Neumeyer wrote:
I’m very new to planning, and I’m already faced with a delema that could be
dangerous. I have 3 best friends all from different times in my life and a
sister and I know they all want to be my maid of honor. What should I do?
Kira wrote:
I’m very new to planning, and I’m already faced with a dilemma that could be dangerous. I have 3 best friends all from different times in my life and a sister and I know they all want to be my maid of honor. What should I do?
Hi Kira,
Picking your maid of honor can be a difficult task, especially if you have many close friends posturing for the opportunity. Because close friends often think they are “the closest” friend to you, feelings can be hurt if they aren’t picked.
You have the blessing of choosing a sibling and lifelong friend as your maid of honor - your sister. A maid of honor should be someone incredibly close to you, that can be there for you in the future. Friends come and go, but family is forever. Go with your sister if you two are close and she desperately wants to fill that position. Consider also that the maid of honor is supposed to play the “support” role at the wedding, attending to small needs during the festivities. These needs may pull your sister away from enjoying the day completely.
If you don’t think your sister fits the bill as maid of honor, then why have one? Tradition has gone the way of dowries and doesn’t have to dictate every facet of your day. Pick all of your friends and your sister to be part of the wedding party and do away with the maid of honor. If the job isn’t available, then no one can have hurt feelings after the wedding.
One more thing. Don’t worry so much about making sure everyone is happy at your wedding. It is your day to enjoy and not worth the stress of being peacemaker.
Rebecca Hinman - UtahWeddings.com Consultant
