Who Pays for What?!
Sadie wrote:
We are having two receptions. My fiance and I are from different towns. So I was wondering if it is my parents obligation to pay for the reception in his town? I know that I will only have about 10 people at that reception and all of my family will be at the reception in my home town which of course my family is paying for. I would love another opinion on this situation. It’s just a little sticky. Thank you!
Hi Sadie,
Having two receptions is a fantastic idea to accommodate guests in both locations. Unlike a decade ago, the lines are no longer rigidly drawn. The burden of paying for the wedding has shifted in recent years from the shoulders of the father of the bride, to include the groom’s family and other family members, i.e. aunts, uncles, etc. Also, with many couples marrying later in life and having money of their own, they are sharing in the expenses.
What ever your situation, there are no longer any hard and fast rules as to “Who Pays for What”, but a general guideline follows as to the traditional breakdown.
Bride or Bride’s Family :
Groom and/or Groom’s Family:
The Attendants:
Bride & Groom:
I recommend you sit down with all those who will be contributing financially (family members) and have a heart to heart. Always keep in mind it is you and your fiancé’s wedding. Let those involved with contributing to the wedding know that your parents are more than happy to pay for the reception in town A, but that you would really appreciate their help with the costs of the reception in town B. Let them know how important it is to you both that you share this special time with friends and family in both locations, but it will take assistance with the cost.
This is a totally reasonable request and it’s an opportunity for those involved to share a most memorable event with all family members and close friends on both sides.
Best wishes - Christine Miller (Eventista and Owner of LiBella Wedding Planning & Design)
Christine Miller is the owner of LiBella Wedding Planning & Design. Christine is available to coordinate memorable and unique events for couples in Utah and across the USA. If you’re looking for someone to plan your event from beginning to end with a unique flair and style, contact Christine at Christine@LiBellaEvents.com or visit the site www.LiBellaEvents.com.
